Selfless. Here’s a word that defines almost none of us these days, myself included.
Worse yet, few see the value in being selfless because even when we are selfless, we may still suffer, get betrayed and ultimately end up in what we consider to be a loss. Because we love and don’t get love back or get mistreatment instead, we naturally build a wall of self-protection and the whole world ends up doing that, so nobody loves on anybody beyond a certain level of inconvenience to us.
When we love based on our own benefits and losses, love loses its full effect. The beauty of being selfless is that selfless people understand their goal in life is not to make themselves happy – simply because they will never be able to reach that goal – but the goal is to obtain joy and share this joy with others so they too may have it (happiness is a feeling, not the same as joy). And in that, everybody gets satisfaction. This joy then empowers love to be put to action without limitations or fears.
We then have the ability to become mature enough to love unconditionally, which also means no longer being afraid to be hurt, to get offended or betrayed in the process, knowing that these things will still happen, but also knowing that the pain we will experience will never be world crushing enough to take away our joy, and the love given will still be the most satisfying because we are a part of a whole, and when the whole is healthy, I am healthy, and when I’m healthy, the whole can become healthy. Selfless people, who love just for the sake of loving, not expecting anything back, have this inner peace that surpasses all understanding, the peace and the joy we all look for everywhere else all our lives and never find.
This is why I particularly value so much the selfless act of love God did for us, it was extremely painful to him (to the point he had to look away when He saw Jesus crucified) but he did it anyway. “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life”- John 3:16.
The ultimate selfless heart is what I want. Pure, clean and healthy from the inside out.
“You make known to me the path of life; in your presence, God, there is fullness of joy” – Psalm 16:11